I wish I could be more like…
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Competition isn’t bad by itself. It can motivate us to work harder, be productive, and improve. A bit of competition in school, sports, or work can spark our drive to do our best. But competition can also slide into negative comparative thinking that gets in the way.
It’s okay to want things others have or to admire qualities in someone else (strength, intelligence, confidence). That doesn’t make you lesser. You are unique and worthy as you are.
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“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” (Zen Shin)
What do you think this quote means?
If you can accept yourself as you are—flaws and all—and treat yourself with kindness, you’ll be like the flower: able to shine in your own way, no matter how you compare to others.
Healthy competition example: Keep working to improve your swimming—that’s positive.
But untangle your success in swimming from someone else’s success. Focus on your progress, not their pace.
Try this exercise:
1. Name one quality you admire in someone else.
2. Translate it into your version (what value/skill is it pointing to for you?).
3. Plan one tiny step this week to grow this quality.
“When [day/time] at [place], I’ll [action].
I wish I could be more like…
Insight
Competition isn’t bad by itself. It can motivate us to work harder, be productive, and improve. A bit of competition in school, sports, or work can spark our drive to do our best. But competition can also slide into negative comparative thinking that gets in the way.
It’s okay to want things others have or to admire qualities in someone else (strength, intelligence, confidence). That doesn’t make you lesser. You are unique and worthy as you are.
Practice
“A flower does not think of competing with the flower next to it. It just blooms.” (Zen Shin)
What do you think this quote means?
If you can accept yourself as you are—flaws and all—and treat yourself with kindness, you’ll be like the flower: able to shine in your own way, no matter how you compare to others.
Healthy competition example: Keep working to improve your swimming—that’s positive.
But untangle your success in swimming from someone else’s success. Focus on your progress, not their pace.
Try this exercise:
1. Name one quality you admire in someone else.
2. Translate it into your version (what value/skill is it pointing to for you?).
3. Plan one tiny step this week to grow this quality.
“When [day/time] at [place], I’ll [action].